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A boy was born to a couple
after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the
boy was the apple of their eyes. When the boy was around two years
old, one morning the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late
for work so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and keep it in the
cupboard. The mother, preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot the
matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to the bottle and,
fascinated with its color, drank it all. It happened to be a
poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages. When the child
collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died.
The mother was stunned. She was terrified how to face her husband.
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead
child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.
What do you think were the four words?
The husband just said "I Love You Darling"
The husband's totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The
child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no
point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he have
taken time to keep the bottle away, this will not have happened. No
point in attaching blame. She had also lost her only child. What she
needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband.
That is what he gave her.
Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who to blame,
whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know. We
miss out some warmth in human relationship in giving each other
support. After all, shouldn't forgiving someone we love be the
easiest thing in the world to do? Treasure what you have. Don't
multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding on to forgiveness.
If everyone can look at life with this kind of perspective, there
would be much fewer problems in the world.
Take off all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive,
selfishness, and fears and you will find things are actually not as
difficult as you think.
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